Low Drama...

 

This experiment is about consciously crossing the line into Low Drama, it helps make clear the line.

In this experiment you will complain consciously.

For three days, notice the things that are not right and complain out loud about them, instead of keeping them quiet. Complain about things of all different intensities. Complain that the glass is half empty. Complain that it too full. Especially complain about the little things. Just notice, and complain out loud.

If you notice that you forget to notice, set a reminder alarm, or put notes up to remind you, or start the experiment over with a buddy and check in with each other about what you are noticing there is to complain about, and complaining out loud about it.

After noticing for three days, take at least 20 minutes to write in your BEEP! Book about your noticing.

Then enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Every complaint has a payoff for the complainer.

Do this experiment in a Possibility Team.

Each person gets five minutes to do conscious complaining while another takes the complainer's Beep! Book and listens.

Listeners, your job is to write down the complainer's complaints in their Beep! Book.

Then give the book, with the list back to the complainer.

Complainer, discover and list the payoffs of having each complaint.

When you have done this, each Team member can enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.02 in their free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Low Drama is about avoiding responsibility.

This experiment is about noticing ways of avoiding responsibility.

Invent a list of 25 creative ways for avoiding responsibility. Write them into your BEEP! Book.

For the next two days, when you walk into a space, say some of them out loud:

"it's cold" or

"there is not enough root beer in the refrigerator" or

"did someone drink my water?" or

"what are we doing here?" or

"when are we going to clean up this house?" or

"why isn't the person in charge here saying hello to me?"

At the end of the second day, write about what came to your attention from saying things that avoid responsibility.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

This experiment is to wake yourself up to some of your low drama.

Find one low drama that you have in your life that you are thinking about a lot: it is occupying you.

In your room, put three chairs together in a triangle. On each chair, put a tag or a doll that says "victim," "persecutor," and "rescuer."

Sit first in the victim chair. Say out loud the victim story.

Talk as the victim to the persecutor, talking to the persecutor chair. Talk as the victim to the rescuer, talking to the rescuer chair.

If you notice you are speaking as a rescuer or perpetrator, move to the chair with the tag that fits with how you are talking, and keep talking.

Do this for a half hour, switching chairs as you notice how the role you are talking from changes.

In which of the three chairs do you spend most of the time?

Do this again with one more low drama story you are having.

Then, for at least 20 minutes, write in your BEEP! Book about what happened and what you noticed about what happened during each half hour.

Then enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.04 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Do the same thing as the last experiment, but this time do it with one of your teams, a Possibility Team, or a work team, housemates or family, or your knitting circle.

Pick a low drama that the whole team plays in the team, and set up a groups of chairs for each of the victim, persecutor and rescuer roles.

Everyone on the team speaks from the chair that matches the voice they are using, moving to different chairs as what they say changes.

The picture of the low drama will become obvious.

For the last 20 minutes before the end of the team meeting, each person write in your BEEP! Book about what happened and any possibilities you noticed about what happened.

For example, people, including you, might find Emotional Healing Processes to do.

Each person on the Team can enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.05 in their free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

Every time that you are complaining, blaming or resisting or justifying; that is, every time you are entering low drama as victim, perpetrator or rescuer, there is an opportunity, a different universe in which you could negotiate things.

This is an experiment about noticing low dramas as doorways to a different universe.

At least twice a day for as long as it takes to write about ten low dramas, each time you notice that you have entered low drama, as a victim, perpetrator, rescuer, write it down in your Beep! Book.

You can set aside two or more times a day to write this way each day for 5 days, or if you can do more writing in a shorter number of days, do it that way.

For each Low Drama you notice you entered, write the negotiation you are avoiding having and why you are avoiding the negotiation.

For example: I resisted saying something when Steve called a crow a raven because I didn't want to be argumentative. The negotiation I avoided was offering to share with him the distinction between a raven a crow.

Keep going until you have written down ten low dramas, and the opportunity you avoided to negotiate intimacy.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.06 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Get out your BEEP! Book and scan your life right now.

Make a list of 20 people who are trying successfully and unsuccessfully to be persecutors, who you classify as persecutors.

These are the people who are making you wrong, who you think are criticizing you, people who won and you lost. They are assholes, and people who made a promise to you and didn't keep it, the people who are not committed to you, not invested in you.

Hint: these will be people you have resentment about.

For each person, write how they are persecuting you and how are you a victim.

Keep going until you have written down the victim/perpetrator story you have with 20 different people.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.07 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Carry around your BEEP! Book for as long as it takes to complete this experiment.

This is an experiment about finding the parts inside you that are persecuting you.

Notice and write down 20 of the persecutors that are inside of you.

Give each part a name. Write what the voices are saying, and for each one, write the Persecutors Sentence.

Also identify and name the parts in you that are victim of the persecutor parts.

Keep going until you have written down the victim/perpetrator story you have with 20 different persecutor parts of yourself.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.08 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

This experiemnt is about the persecotors within you that are persecuting others.

In your BEEP! Book, write down the persecutors that are inside of you who are persecuting others, and the voices for each persecutor.

Keep going until you have written down 20 different parts of yourself that persecute others.

Then, for 30 minutes, compare this list with the lists from the above experiments and write about what you notice.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.09 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

You may or may not also want to do training to become a Conscientious Asshole.

The switch from one part in the Low Drama triangle is so fast these days it is difficult to tell them apart.

This is another experiment about noticing.

For a day, every time somebody asks you a question or makes a comment about something, anything, even the weather, say:

"It wasn't me!"

...and give really good reasons that it wasn't.

Like, "I wasn't there, I didn't even know about it, I don't even care about it."

Give proof even if it is unreasonable.

At the end of the day, for 20 minutes, write about saying, "it wasn't me" for a day.

Enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

The victim is the most powerful character in the Low Drama triangle. Without a victim, there can be no Low Drama.

The victim uses unconsciously the emotion of sadness to feel like a victim.

Be a responsible victim for a whole day.

For the whole day, do everything (whether you want to or not) as a victim of the circumstances, of the rules (including your own rules), of things people say, of how people look at you or don't look at you, or because the temperature is not how you like it.

Make everything you do, every move, every word, every silence, make it as a responsible victim. You have to do EVERYTHING. You have to put your coat on, you have to answer the phone, drink water, go pee; you have to do it all as a victim, taking all the responsibility.

Do a lot of groaning and sighing, and say, "Idiots!" with your fist in the air.

At the end of the day, write in your BEEP! Book about what you noticed from doing this experiment.

Then, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.11 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Complaints have layers to them. This experiment is about discovering the layers.

Get out your BEEP! Book and write the heading on five pages: The Complaint Behind the Complaint. For as long as it takes to fill five pages, list things that you have to complain about or that you could complain about in your life. Leave some space between each complaint that you write down.

Include the things that you are planning to complain about.

Be very clear and specific about what you write down.

Then, under each specific, individual complaint, write down what the complaint is behind the complaint, and the complaint behind that complaint.

For example:

It is too cold

I am cold

No one is turning up the heat or offering me a blanket.

I hate it when people don't read my mind.

Nobody cares about me.

When all five pages are filled, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

People can make Low Drama out of anything.

This experiment is abut finding out more about that.

In a place where there are people around (in the kitchen, at the office), move something like the table so it's in the way, or leave a pile of books or a big bag full of recycling in the way.

That is to say, find a way to create a physical problem in the space, except don't turn the radio up, because you will need to hear and talk with people.

Stay near with your BEEP! Book and when people come by and make a sound or have a reaction, write it down.

Then ask them about it, say, "Can I ask you about the story behind the sound or comment you just made? I am an Experimenter doing some research about the stories people have about how thing being in the way makes us victims. What is the the story that makes you react as if you are a victim here? Tell me the whole story."

When you have two pages of victim stories documented, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.13 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Not all the parts in the Low Drama triangle have to be played by people.

Go to one of your closets (or part of the garage or attic or basement or a cupboard), and take everything out of it and put it on the floor.

Pick up one object at a time, and get wether the object is a persecutor, rescuer or victim of you, or if it makes you into a persecutor, rescuer or victim.

Do this with each object.

What personality part do these items call forth?

For example, "I keep this so my mother feels happy. It doesn't fit me, but she gave it to me; it rescues my mom."

Or, "These scarves are going to strangle me, they are victimizing me."

"This hammer is saving me from nails that stick out."

What thoughtware is happening?

Consider the possibility of getting rid of every thing that is creating low drama. Consider doing this experiment with every closet, cupboard, every pile of things in your possession.

For every 3 hours you take doing this experiment, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

Each 3 hours on this experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

For one day, shift your identity to "Saviour."

Put on a superman t-shirt or hero shirt and for one day, try to fix everyones problems.

Fix even the problems people don't think they have.

Finish other people's sentences, get them food, move their glass away from the edge of the table so it won't fall.

If you can't see any problem, make a problem for them and say, "I will fix this for you."

Fix so many problems, seen and unseen that you totally incapacitate the other person.

At the end of the day, for at least 20 minutes, write about being a Saviour For a Day. Then enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.15 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

Do this experiment when you are with a friend who is having a low drama, maybe in a cafe, or standing in line.

When you notice, call them on their phone.

When they answer, talk to them as if you aren't together.

On the phone, admit the low drama you are having with them. For example, you might say, "Here we are talking about your mother again, and I'm agreeing out loud she is what you say she is, and in my head I am saying that you are not complete about your mother and I think this is why you are talking like this."

Switch back and forth between the phone/admitting conversation and the in-person/low drama conversation.

Follow this experiment where it takes you.

Then enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.16 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

The amazing thing about being a victim and making someone the persecutor is that you are then justified and entitled to take revenge on the person who persecuted you.

This experiment is about doing something else.

Make a list of the people against whom you are plotting secret revenge when nothing else is happening.

Write down who they are what the revenge will be and why you are doing it.

Put it all together and make it onto a film script for a TV series and send us ten percent.

Hint: Notice when you are having a low drama argument in your head, this is one way you are planning revenge.

When your TV series airs, we will interview you about it and figure out how many Matrix Points you can enter using Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.17 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

Your experiment will probably be worth at least 10 Matrix Points.

For a whole day, explain as you encounter people, who or what is making you do what ever you are doing.

Externalize all authority.

For example:

"the slow traffic made me late,"

"the government with their lockdown made me stop exercising,"

"my partner didn't tell me to fill up the gas."

Notice what happens, in you and about others, as you do this experiment. At the end of the day write for at least 20 minutes in your BEEP! Book about it.

Then enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.18 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

There is something about Low Drama and Reasons.

This experiment is about discovering more about that.

For five days, add to two lists in your BEEP! Book:

1. YOUR reasons and

2. THEIR reasons.

Every time a situation happens, a conflict, a low drama, a revenge situation, pause the conversation to document the reasons (YOURs and THEIRs) about what is happening.

Say, "I want to put this on pause because I am a reason detective, and I need to document all the reasons happening right now, in search for the ultimate reason."

Listen to people and write down all their reasons about what they are doing and thinking. Also write down your reasons.

Make it Your (temporary) Quest to find the really good reasons, the best reason, the Ultimate Reason for what is happening.

It is not, "because."

Or, "I am your mother."

Is it, "because I am RIGHT"?

At the end of the five days, when you have discovered the Ultimate Reason, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.19 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

There is an addiction to trying to be right, to be perfect, to be the best, and it is an insane game.

But I tried to play it.

For 7 days, list all the ways you and others are right, in search of The Ultimate Rightness.

Document who is more right.

Every time you find something RIGHT, look for something that is MORE right than that.

Get everyone in on this Search for The Ultimate Rightness.

After 7 days, when you have discovered The Ultimate Rightness, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.20 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

For an entire week, when you meet people, online or offline, even people you don't know, notice what you want from them.

Notice what you want them to do or say, or how you want them to change or behave differently, and find any way you can to manipulate them to do it.

Become an expert manipulator.

Special Note: do not use Possibility Management vocabulary when you do this. This is cheating.

After 7 days, write for at least 21 minutes about the experiment in your BEEP! Book, and enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.00 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

Now that you have experimented with being an Expert Manipulator, for another week, manipulate people specifically into buying your victim story.

Do whatever it takes to get people to agree that you are a victim.

After 7 days, write for at least 20 minutes about the experiment in your BEEP! Book, and enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.22 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

In your Possibility Team, decide which two or three people are going to compete to be The Best Rescuer.

Other people will have problems. They are not good at anything:

-they can't get their papers out of their bag,

-they lost their keys,

-they don't understand what "Low Drama" is,

and the three rescuers will compete at being rescuers, to be the BEST one.

After 30 minutes (set a timer), have a vote and give the winner 15 seconds of applause.

After doing this experiment, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.23 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Serving Shadow Principles is Low Drama.

Research what Shadow Principles are, and make a list of 8 Shadow Principles that are familiar to you, like competition, betrayal, or exclusion.

Then make a Shadow Principle Detector.

Maybe it's a mason jar lid that you put a ribbon on and you wear it around you neck, or maybe you make one out of some glasses.

For a week, use the Shadow Principle Detector to help you notice when a Shadow Principle enters.

When one does, like superiority or rejection, write it in your BEEP! Book, and write also what the Low Drama is, which role you and others played, and write out the benefit of serving the Shadow Principal, and how much time you spent in this Shadow Principle story.

For example: I stayed in inferiority for two days, while I was in victim after my perpetrator housemate asked me to clean the kitchen better, and my other housemate didn't speak up and rescue me, so they were also a perpetrator. The benefit was I got away with leaving more messes, not doing any cleaning, and I got some pity from my friend (rescuer) who listened and agreed to my victim story, because my inferiority meant I couldn't come out of my room.

Notice what happened in the space, and how the Shadow Principle came in, maybe it made the space confused, heavy, thick, maybe people got tired, wanted to leave, or Gremlins woke up to feed.

When the week is over, re-read all of your stories in your BEEP! Book, and enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.24 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

It might seem after doing the previous experiments that you can't say anything, that every thing that comes out of your mouth is low drama.

Not saying anything is also low drama, when you are not saying what you want, not interrupting, not sharing, not negotiating, not putting the Poop on the Table, you are participating in low drama.

Which role are you taking when you are not speaking up?

When a space is confused or there is misunderstanding and you just watch it happen... gloating inside about who is losing or winning...which role are you in?

For one week, catch yourself being silent 4 times a day. You can ask a person who lives with you also to catch you being silent. They can say, "I notice you have been silent." Say, "Thank you," and scan to see if low drama is happening.

At the end of each day write for at least 20 minutes about how the experiment went for the day.

At the end of the week, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.25 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

With someone you are with, for a few hours to a day, follow them around, and start noticing out loud and writing down the things you notice that they don't care about, not as a persecutor thing, it's an observation thing.

"I notice that when you took your shoes off, you didn't care about where they were put,"

"I notice when you shut the door you let it make a loud noise, and you didn't care about disrupting the others in the room,"

"I notice that when you left the bathroom you didn't turn out the light, you didn't care about a light being left on."

So many things.

This will drive the person kind of crazy, their Gremlin will come up and try to kill you. Notice the point at which the person tries to destroy and stop the experiment. At that point, talk to their Gremlin and ask, "Why don't you care about this?"

Say you just need do write it down.

One of the things you will get is, "it's too much for me."

When they say this, write down the thing that is too much for them, because that is a precious doorway for an Emotional Healing Process that they can do.

After observing this friend, noticing out loud what they don't care about, and writing abut it in your Beep! Book, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.26 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.

We have discovered that Gremlins have two channels: the strategy they use first, and if that one doesn't work, the strategy they use next.

For three days, in each low drama you are in, notice the first channel your Gremlin and other people's Gremlins start with to throw a hook. If the other person is not hooked, notice what happens next, what is the second channel the Gremlin uses.

At least once a day, sit down with your Beep! Book and write about what you noticed about Channel One and Channel Two Gremlin activities.

After three days and at least three entries into your Beep! Book, enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.27 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

Our Box has many different nits about our needs, whether they are real or not, and our Gremlin has many justifications for needing and not needing things.

For three days, live your life as if your needs were real.

Carry your Beep! Book with you, and set a timer to go off every two hours. Each time the timer goes off, write down the needs you had during the past two hours, and the justification you have for each of your needs.

I need to rearrange the dishes in the dishwasher before I run it because it works better that way. I need to go faster that the speed limit, because I am cool. I need chocolate, because I deserve a treat. I need to watch the next episode of this series, now, because I might be too busy with work to get a chance to watch it tomorrow.

Etcetera. 

Write the needs down and the justification for each one...the point is to notice needs and justification of needs.

After completing this experiment enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.28 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.

For the first part of this experiment, start to notice when you go into the low drama dance of:

I am more fragile than you, more sensitive, than you, and weaker.

When an incident happens, write out the exact script that you use out loud or in your head.

Keep writing down the incidents you have until there are incidents from 3-5 different people.

For the second part of this experiment, go back to each incident, and write down what you were trying to control the other person to do:

Not drive so fast, not interrupt, to flow power to you, acknowledge or appreciate or compliment you, make things better for you.

Then find out what wound you were protecting, so you can keep using it as a means of control.

Write what the wound is, and then write:

"I have succeeded in keeping my wound for one more day."

After completing this experiment enter Matrix Code LOWDRAMA.29 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.

This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.